I'm enjoying the freedom of no sex drive after menopause
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blackhat

I am married. I want to give my husband the freedom to explore other sexual possibilities. This is not a sudden idea, we have talked about it for years now. One thing that comes up for me is that there is no one to talk to about this mis matched sexuality. All I find in searches on the net and in book stores is how to revive your sexual desires, get hormone therapy, buy a sexy outfit. Friends that I know are all going that route. Does anyone know a group, a forum, a book, that talks about how a women in a marriage deals with this? I have 0 interest in sex, and after years of trying to sex myself up with clothes, diet, hormones, sex clubs, I just feel like I am naturally and completely done with sex. In a good way, like a 10 year old girl. And I had a very full and satisfying sex life. I'm just done. Isn't that okay too? Is there not one single person out there that feels the same?

 

Victorious1

Wow,if your husband does not feel the same way then I feel so very sad for the state of your marriage. If he does feel the same way then hurray for your marriage, one less issue to deal with. Unfortunately, I see this situation occur in a lot of marriages with disastrous results and usually it's the man that gets shortchanged by a thoughtless, selfish and uncaring woman who seems to forget why her husband was attracted to her in the beginning of the relationship. Sex is why a man pursues and desires a woman and women know this very well and use it to their advantage in the beginning of the relationship to earn a home, kids, old age security then when all that is acquired they shut off the well on the man and then suddenly the man is caught choking and starving for something his lifelong mate falsely assured him that he would have for the life in their relationship. And then the woman acts so very surprised when the man goes out and has an affair to meet his undying needs. I can understand if a woman has physical limitations and just can't perform such as heart issues, skin problems or severe breathing problems but if you just don't feel like having sex anymore then do something about it because lots of remedies are available out there. What if your husband said that he just didn't feel like cutting the grass anymore or didn't feel like going grocery shopping for you? How would you feel if things were reversed on what you desired and liked. You wouldn't feel so nonchalant about the situation then would you? If your husband still needs sexual intimacy and you won't offer it then you both need counselling, you need to get bloodwork to see if you have vitamin deficiencies or any other physical problems that are causing your lack of interest in sex. Remember, you have a partner and you are not alone in this relationship and your actions may be causing severe grief to someone that loves you. Good luck.

 

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