So 3 days before my 3 year wedding anniversary I began to experience painful bumps in my vaginal area. I umed it was an outbreak of HPV (which my husband and I both have). Finally the pain became so bad I went to the ER and was given a culture swab and some viccodin. The next day I went to my regular doctor to be checked again and was told that I have herpes. Happy Anniversary to me!
I feel very lost, i refuse to tell anyone about this. I feel shameful and know that nobody will understand. none of my friends or family.
My husband failed to inform me the day we had sex that he had a bump on his genitals, he umed it was an ingrown hair. Now his umption has left me with herpes for the rest of my life.
Ive gone through did he cheat on me phase? Weve discussed this and he says that one time in 2007 he had a bump that he thought was from HPV, his friend gave him some medicine (turned out to be valtrex) and it went away. So my umption is that hes had this since we've been together (5years) and never knew. I just cant understand how he never put 2 and 2 together. Part of me feels like, yea that makes sense and I know its possible for the virus to lay dormant for a really long time. A very large part of me believes that he hasn't cheated on me but at the same time I feel really stupid. I dont want to be that stupid wife that believes a cheating husband.
I just dont know what to do or think. Im hoping that after my initial outbreak that this will go dormant and not somthing that controls my life. I feel so dirty, and I know I shouldnt because it was my husband and not some random person
I cant decide if i should let this destroy my marriage. Its possible hes had it for a while and never knew, and plus whose going to want me now with this.
Its all so painful, physically and emotionally and am hoping to find someone to talk too so I dont feel so alone.
Thanks for the ear....