My mom has this idea that we need to ask for expensive things in a relationship. My fiance and I got engaged, and she had to come with me to the store to choose my ring for me.. She wants me to have a certain type of wedding.. she just believes that she has a " say " in my life! Im 22 and now that I started speaking up, she takes it to offense saying Ive changed after getting engaged and how I break her heart. Im so annoyed, as I think she and my dad ruined thier marriage ( even though they are still married) I dont want to be ANYTHING like her or my dad, I respect them but most of the time they get no my last nerves, and I dont like thier habits, nor do I like the way they handle situations.. and their personalities.. I sound so bad, but Ive been through so much in my life because of the both of them. Now, My fiance should buy me a diamond ring, ( because my mom wants him to ) and since I currently live abroad, and our family is a bit culture oriented.. She wants him to buy the ring in the country we reside in currently becuase she believes that diomands are much more expensive, and valuable then the ones in the states. if It were up to me, I dont want a diomand ring in the first place, but if I were to choose one, I dont care how much it is! like id perfer something not to expensive in the first place because a ring doesnt mean that much to me.. its the fact that I love my fiance and want to spend my life with him... she thinks that if the ring is expensive not only does it show he cares for me but if anything happens God forbid, I can sell the ring and viola its a safe net. Anyway please advise.. as I really wanna do things my way...
One time she actually told me I have no say.. and my opinion holds no value in this matter..:( I told her that was really a mean thing to say and she took that to offense and insulted me..
Thank you so much