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Sounds like your pulled way too thin. You need to step back and erect some barriers. Pull out of the family problems. Don't tell them to stick it, just remove yourself.
The work situation will have to wait until your better, but as soon as you can, start looking for a new job. They are still out there, and your next employer may be an angel. Just keep quiet until after you get an offer.
Men are vastly different from women. Your husbands issue is simple. He sees a problem, he has to fix it. Its an insane compulsion with us. We must fix problems. Trouble is that he cant identify exactly what the problem is and doesn't know what he can do to fix it. This is like being stuck in a room with a huge crooked picture, and not being allowed to straighten it. Give him a job to do. I suggest giving him the task of keeping the family issue away from you and helping you to find wanted adds for the new job. With something to do, he will get better.
Listen Shauna, A baby is a full time job in itself, If you don't start creating a buffer zone between these people you will seriously loose your mind. The earlier that you do this the better it will be when the baby actually arrives. You have one responsibility, and that's to yourself. Give yourself a peaceful place where you can unwind because when the baby comes, you will be stressed out by the chaotic routine of the all night feedings and the constant diaper changes. You don't need foolish people bothering you about meaningless problems on top of it all.
Oh, and back your man. He will probably have to put his foot down at some point. Don't undermine him. Let him do his job keeping you out of the nonsense. Families forgive (eventually). If they get mad, don't worry about it. Give the newborn 6 months of peace, then when you've regained your balance, go back and patch things up. So let your man do his thing.
Chris
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