An End To Abuse
Once you've come to terms with the fact that you're in an abusive relationship, you're confronted with the fact that the smart thing to do is to end the relationship. But while an abusive relationship is difficult, getting out of one is just as hard. Preparation is a key factor and part of getting ready is taking a good, hard look at your situation.
An abusive relationship is hard on the emotions, the wallet, and your body. The longer you stick by your man, the lower your self-esteem will dip. As time goes on, you will begin to feel isolated from the real world: trapped as you are in the web of your partner's abuse.
Start by seeing the problem. You've given your partner ample chances to seek treatment or to change his ways, but nothing seems to help. Wake up and smell the coffee: you can't fix this situation.
Make yourself a support system. This is the antidote to the keen state of isolation you've experienced as a result of your abusive relationship. Get your family members and close friends to back you up and be on call at any time, day or night. Give them an honest picture of your situation. This may be uncomfortable for you and for them, but is a crucial step in breaking away from the harmful relationship.
Find a friend or family member with whom you can stay for a bit. You need a safe haven, but also warmth and companionship. Making the transition to being on your own again is a good goal, but for now, you need healing socialization.
Change your contact information: phone, email and snail mail addresses. Don't tell your ex where you will be or give him clues on how to reach you. You need to cut off all contact.
Get some help. Find a therapist or a support group. Speak to your health care provider about your situation and see what he/she suggests.
Be reborn. Enjoy life. Sign up for activities you think you may enjoy, such as an exercise class, where you get fit and meet new people at the same time. Every step you take toward rebuilding your life will build your self-esteem and make you a healthier you.
Don't rush into a new relationship. Make sure you feel strong and secure before embarking on a new love affair. When you do date, be watchful for signs of abusive behavior, since victims all too easily miss the signposts the second time around. Set boundaries to protect yourself. Don't give the new guy any second chances. One strike and he's out.